Even the best and the most beautiful of all people have had people who hated them. Lord Jesus Christ, Mahatma Gandhi and Sir Abraham Lincoln had haters. Then how can you and me not have our share of them!
From great or extraordinary lives to special to ordinary lives, the number of haters normally increases. Why is this so? It is because extraordinary people are great, their thoughts transcend all sorts of physical and mental boundaries, their mind not myopic, their deeds never destructive and their love always limitless. As we become less great or shift from extraordinary to ordinary, we see many of these traits evanesce and observe more people hating us. Making our lives great could take much time and will require a great deal of effort but winning over our haters can be easily done and would be a step in the right direction to be happy and successful.
Haters are ubiquitous and we can neither run away from them nor can we avoid them. All what we can do is to engage with them. But how? By giving them the taste of the same medicine they give us? Oh, no! Love them, love them as much as they hate you.
Hatred comes easily, it is a shallow feeling and it does not come from the bottom of our hearts. Those who rely on the weapon of hate, do not actually rely on their hearts. They turn into slaves of their own momentary feeling of hatred.
Loving your hater does not mean that you have to submit to his wrongs. Oppose him with all your might, says Gandhiji, but patiently and without resentment suffer all the hardships that he may subject you to. This simple rule itself can mend your hater's mind. The hardship you face will definitely melt the hatred of the greatest of your haters.
Next we need to be kind to all, more so to our haters. Kindness, says the leadership guru Mr. Robin Sharma, quite simply is the rent we must pay for the space we occupy in this planet. Being extraordinarily kind to your hater gives him a humbling experience which would reform him.
Haters are not always filled with hatred alone. They, too, have goodness in them. We should remember what the great orator and Tamil politician Shri. Annadurai succinctly said to his partymen, 'The rival garden's jasmine is also fragrant.' Our task remains primarily to explore the goodness in the people who hate us. And once we get to know that, we start to think about their goodness and then slowly become appreciative of them. The great Leo Tolstoy asks people to be like the spider that spreads out in all directions its web, the web of love, and to catch in all that comes.
To be successful is everyone's wish and to be so one must win over most, if not all, of his haters. The successful person, said E.N. Gray, has the habit of doing things failures don't like to do. Develop the habit of loving your haters as much as they hate you, not all can do this, but, if you do you will soon see yourself becoming happy and successful.
Hatred comes easily, it is a shallow feeling and it does not come from the bottom of our hearts. Those who rely on the weapon of hate, do not actually rely on their hearts. They turn into slaves of their own momentary feeling of hatred.
Loving your hater does not mean that you have to submit to his wrongs. Oppose him with all your might, says Gandhiji, but patiently and without resentment suffer all the hardships that he may subject you to. This simple rule itself can mend your hater's mind. The hardship you face will definitely melt the hatred of the greatest of your haters.
Next we need to be kind to all, more so to our haters. Kindness, says the leadership guru Mr. Robin Sharma, quite simply is the rent we must pay for the space we occupy in this planet. Being extraordinarily kind to your hater gives him a humbling experience which would reform him.
Haters are not always filled with hatred alone. They, too, have goodness in them. We should remember what the great orator and Tamil politician Shri. Annadurai succinctly said to his partymen, 'The rival garden's jasmine is also fragrant.' Our task remains primarily to explore the goodness in the people who hate us. And once we get to know that, we start to think about their goodness and then slowly become appreciative of them. The great Leo Tolstoy asks people to be like the spider that spreads out in all directions its web, the web of love, and to catch in all that comes.
To be successful is everyone's wish and to be so one must win over most, if not all, of his haters. The successful person, said E.N. Gray, has the habit of doing things failures don't like to do. Develop the habit of loving your haters as much as they hate you, not all can do this, but, if you do you will soon see yourself becoming happy and successful.
